Journals Recent Entries Best Entries Best Journals Journal List Search Journals. Community Links Members List. Hey everyone, I've never done this before but I need some advice. Sorry it's a long read but any help would be greatly appreciated. About 5 months ago now I began datong the daughter of one of my closest friends. I should point out that my friend's daughter and I are both the same age. She is 23 and I am 25, so it's not a case of me having watched her grow up or anything like that.
My girlfriend and I get along great and we have an amazing relationship, but her dad is not happy about it. Me and him work together and spend a lot of time together, and he has gotten to know me very well over the years. But that means he's also seen the not-so-great side of me and has seen me get into trouble and pretty much just use women in the past. And I'm not the ideal candidate to be anyone's daughter's boyfriend to begin with.
I don't usually have relationships and prefer to keep things casual. But this is not the case with his daughter. I have never been more serious or felt more strongly about anything in my entire life. Now I understand frieends concerns, and I get how he can see my actions as disrespectful. But he also knows that I'm a good guy and we've always been great friends. He's someone I look up to and want to repair our friendship. I also want to stop any hostility between him and his daughter. So I guess my dating my friends daughter is how can I make him see that I love his daughter and that I would never, regardless of my previous actions, begin a relationship with her if I had any bad intentions whatsoever?
He knows I don't normally do relationships so he must see that I care about her and I'm not just using her. Also do datlng feel that what we're doing is wrong? We'd both liked each other for a long time before we finally got together. It's not like we just jumped into it without thinking. Share Share this post on Digg Del. Kind of sucks when your actions pretty much tell what kind of man you are doesn't it? You used women now you want the people that know you to think you're a good dating my friends daughter.
The only way you can do that is through your datint keeping those actions up for as long as it takes. Can't blame your friend for worrying about a guy who has a reputation for treating women like they were dating my friends daughter. Let your actions prove what man you are now. I agree with the poster above: Even a little slip will be looked at unfavorably I think it is also worth you realizing that your relationship with your friend her father will probably never "go back to what it was before.
I don't particularly see anything wrong with it, but I dating my friends daughter think you should be so naive as to think that your friendship can just go back to the way it was. I think this would be true to some degree, even if you didn't have this previous reputation. You have moved yourself, in a sense, from an insider - from a friendship perspective - to a kind of an outsider, from the family perspective.
At this point, you are either a potential in-law, or a potential heartbreaker. Neither of those is particularly well-suited to being wide open guy-buddies any more. Again, I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with this, it's just the nature of relationship dynamics, and something you'll have to get used to. Originally Posted by thatone. Originally Posted by JayParks. There's nothing wrong but tread carefully. You haven't shown a ftiends of long stable relationships before her and if I was in her father's place I would be dating my friends daughter wary friendw you, too.
I will go even further and be blunt: So be prepared to face that vating. Originally Posted by grkBoy. Tell him you love his daughter, and respect him too much to treat her as a plaything Originally Posted by silvermercy. Originally Posted by SincereOnlineGuy.